Tuesday, February 14, 2006

DOES DUST MEAN YOUR HOUSE IS FILTHY?


Last night I was watching wife swap, a show where families exchange wives. The "clean" wife showed up at the "messy" wife's house and remarked how filthy things were. They showed handprints in the dust that had accumulated on the TV. Hmmm. The clean wife was so horrified that she had the house fumigated.

This is a picture of one of the TVs in my house. Aren't there more important things in life than making sure there isn't any dust on your TV? Maybe not, see you later, I've got to go dust.

FUNNY KID THINGS

FUNNY ERIN THING:
On the way to eat at Red Lobster for my birthday, Erin was talking about what kind of car she wants when she gets older. We all know she wants a red Corvette convertible. What we didn't know is that she thinks she will be a responsible driver but she's not sure. I guess she doesn't want to make any promises she can't keep.

FUNNY THOMAS THING:
When Thomas was two years old we were pouring some concrete. We wanted to put his handprints and Erin's footprints on the edge of the pad we were making. He didn't want to do it. At the time we couldn't understand what could be so scarey about that so we forced his little hands to do it through all his screaming and crying. Just recently Thomas told me that he remembered doing it and I asked him why he had been so upset. He said that he thought that he would get stuck in it!! Apparently, we must have traumatized him quite a bit for him to remember something that happened when he was two!

FUNNY SARAH THING:
For my birthday, Sarah bought me a toilet bowl brush. Quite a nice one that has a dolphin picture on it. It is for the beach house. I guess she can't stand looking at the old rusted one that I have there now. Maybe I am more funny than Sarah because I actually was happy with that gift! It even took me awhile to realize that its going to be a funny home video of me opening and admiring a toilet bowl brush!

Friday, February 10, 2006

WHAT'S UP!

I've been neglecting my blog....

We've been busy. Thomas competed in the regional "Math Counts" competition and his team of 4 "mathletes" won first place! They will go on to compete in the state competition where the top four mathletes will go on to the nationals in Arlington, Virginia. He's a bit like me when it comes to competition and has been telling me all along that he is "in it for the math not the competition". Don't get me wrong, he's happy to win but would have been just as happy if he didn't. When you love something like math, its fun to be surrounded by the few other kids who love it too. In a way we both have a part of us that would like the competition part to be over - you know - yeah we won, let's go home!

I've been planning a big camping trip to Disney World and its keeping me pretty busy. I've made a lot of reservations but I still have a bit of stuff to do. Since the kids don't get much time off from school we will have to go in June. I know, HOT! I've survived June and August in Florida before and I can do it again!!!

Lately I have been dealing with a lot of little frustrations and its been getting me down a bit. You know how that goes, nothing big but all those little things add up until you realize that you are walking around with a constant headache! I think a few of them will work out soon so hopefully I will not have to replenish my supply of Advil!

Oh yeah, I turned 42 on tuesday....old, old, old. Part of me doesn't mind getting older but .....

Wednesday, January 25, 2006

LADY BUG, LADY BUG FLY AWAY HOME

Pennsylvania seems to have an over abundance of lady bugs and they always swarm in the fall. Some of the thousands that literally coat the outside of our house every fall seem to find small cracks to make it inside and spend the winter. As a result, I have lady bugs flying around my house all the time. Most other people I talk to are driven crazy by these "bugs". They kill them and even vacuum them up when they are still alive. I have taken the more gentle approach of living in harmony with them. A fact that my son, Thomas, didn't appreciate the day he ran acrossed the kitchen and ended up with a lady bug in his mouth! Lady bugs are so cute, how could I just kill them? So far none have ended up in my coffee mug like that darn carpenter ant that I almost drank one day. Even if one does I will forgive them!

You'd think that is all I'd have to say about lady bugs, but no, the story goes on (and on and on)! Recently just before I headed off to bed I saw a lady bug on the edge of the pot that I am using to try to grow a cherry tomato plant. She was walking around the rim of the pot and since it is a circle, she just kept going and going and going. I felt sorry for that little lady bug, on the treadmill of life. Just circling and never getting anywhere. Don't we all feel that way sometimes? I didn't try to stop her but just wondered if she would still be there the next morning. The next day she was gone. I wonder if she flew home to check to see if her house was on fire and make sure her children were okay. I'm hoping that she went on vacation.

Thursday, January 19, 2006

FOR ERIN, BECAUSE SHE NEEDS THIS RIGHT NOW

Erin is the kind of person who is so easy to be around. That's why I love to just hang out with her and do nothing. When I am in that kind of lazy mood, there is nothing better than the two of us laying in bed and watching MTV. Yes, I know she is only 11 and a good mother wouldn't let her watch those kids cursing and being wild....but we love it.

Erin is also the kind of kid that everyone would want to have. She is so well rounded. She is talented at the things that she loves. She cares about people. If I had a dime for everytime someone has told me how much they like her, I would be rich. I always just tell them that yes, I think she is great too! In my mind I just think about how I am so glad that I am the lucky one to have her as MY daughter!

I am not a person to believe in supernatural things, but Erin is so intuned to my thoughts and feelings she often times "reads my mind"! When I was deciding that we could possibly get another kitten, she was the one that immediately realized from the tone in my voice that I was thinking about it. Recently, she somehow seemed to know that I was thinking about going on a trip to Disney World. She says it was only a lucky guess, but how did she know to guess Disney?! I think that must be why we can be around each other so easily. Maybe we think alike.

Its not just me that she reads so well. Its people in general. I'm sure that she will eventually start a career where she works with people and I think in her lifetime many people will remember her kindness. I'm sure she will make a difference in many people's lives no matter what she chooses to do.

Another thing that I admire about my daughter is her enthusiasm. When she wants to do something, she jumps in with both feet and throws her heart and soul into it. She has the ability to relish every simple moment in things that she wants to do. When she was given a minor part in the school play in the fall, her words were "this is the greatest experience that I've ever had!" I remember that another girl who didn't get the part she wanted, quit in anger, while Erin just lived the moment she was given. Once again, I have to say how lucky I am to be able to be her mother. I get to sit back and absorb HER happiness and make it my own!

These are just a few things that I love about Erin. These are not things that I've "trained" into her. This is who she is as a person. And I very much like that person!

Saturday, January 14, 2006

ALWAYS A PROJECT

Angry Prophet asked if we had another project planned for our house. Well, there is always another project planned and usually two or three in progress. A friend of ours who works with Tom had been fed up with his worn out carpeting. Like us he was hesitating to replace it until he was dog free. One day when he and his wife could no longer stand it, they ripped it up leaving bare plywood. When they finished the job they said "there, now our house is just like Tom and Elise's house"!

P.S. I haven't been posting much but thanks everyone for all the nice comments!

TOO BAD MY KIDS AREN'T JOCKS

Yeah, too bad! Me and my two middle schoolers have discussed whether they are nerds. I think the usual reply is "well, I guess so". They certainly fall far short of "jocks". Erin dances ballet and tap and Thomas runs, Forest Gump style. Remember, Forest was fast and had incredible endurance. Thomas may have been the smallest kid on the cross country team but he was also the fastest. Yes, brag, brag....I hate when I look like I'm bragging so I will stop now. Anyway, dancing and running do not really put you in the "jock" category. Now I will finally get to my point. I secretly think it is super hilarious that other parents feel sorry for you when your kids are not jocks. This feeling of pity seems to be magnified when your kids are also smart. I say "secretly" because how could I laugh in these parents face! Let me give you an example of an actual conversation I had with a mother of jocks. I was walking through the school to pick up Thomas and met her there.

Mother Jock: Hi Elise
Me: Hi, are you watching your son on the wrestling team?
Mother Jock: Yes
Me: I'm here to pick up Thomas, he's on the math team along with the six other kids in the school that actually like math. (This was said in a joking way with a laugh)
Mother Jock: Oh, that's alright, I say that as long as they show an interest in something its okay. (This was said in a way that indicated that I shouldn't be ashamed that Thomas liked math)
Me: chuckle

I mean, really, do people think I would rather have kids that were popular jocks!!??!! Yes, they do, because that seems to be very important in this culture. I laugh everytime someone tries to make me feel better about not being the parent of a star athlete. On the other hand its somewhat sad that people really feel popularity is the key to success. Its hard to feel sympathy for them through my laughter.

I believe the real keys to success don't lie in popularity or high intelligence. I believe a person must have a combination of confidence, happiness, the ability to make good decisions and a really good work ethic. These are the things that I watch for in my kids. Of course I also make sure they are not outcasts and they are able to make friends. I'm also glad that they have the advantage of being pretty smart. Happiness is the most important characteristic because I could never consider someone successful if they weren't happy.

Keep on smiling!

Sunday, January 01, 2006

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

People would be jealous of the festivities here in our household! To start with, there were nonalcoholic strawberry daquiris. First with just strawberries, then with banana, then finally with vanilla yogurt! Woohoo! After that we watched a series of tsunami shows on the discovery channel I rotated the kids through a wash cycle to help keep them awake (a bath for Sarah and showers for Thomas and Erin). After they came out we continued our TV viewing with volcano shows. We will definitely enter 2006 prepared for a natural disaster! Some where in between shows Erin could no longer wait for the fake champagne and we opened both bottles of Weis brand's fine fake champagne! Tom tried to figure out what year it was made but for some reason it wasn't marked on the bottles, hmm, wonder why! We all agreed that the fizzy apple cider was much better than the apple cranberry fizzy stuff! We made our toast to 2006 around 9:00 pm just in case we all fell asleep. BUT WE DIDN'T!! We started watching Times Square around 11:30 pm and watched the ball drop on the channel that had Regis whining away. We thought that would be better than listening to the girl who was with Carson Daley rambling on and on and on. Unfortunately, when the 2006 sign lit up, the camera was focused on Regis counting down out of synch with the actual countdown and not on the 2006 sign! We did see the ball dropping though!

BEST WISHES TO ALL!!

Thursday, December 29, 2005

OUR HOUSE



After posting about living happily here in Pennsylvania, I have been chatting a bit with Angry Prophet and from that, have decided to post about the story of my house. I've debated with myself a bit about whether this was interesting enough to post here or should be posted in my "boringme64" blog - the name speaks for itself!

In 1986, before we were married, we bought our 5.3 acres. It already had a well and septic on the site because there had originally been a summer home here that had burned down. Legends abound about what caused the fire. We've heard it was a lightening strike, but others say it happened when an airplane crashed into it and some people have alluded to arson. I suspect it was a lightening strike but the airplane story sounds much more exciting. We had our house built by a local home builder that same year. At that time we could only afford to have the main part of it built (the part with two dormers). We also had them leave the upstairs unfinished to save money. I can still remember the excitement of moving in! Packing up our few things and sleeping on a mattress on the floor. Everything was so fresh and new. Its hard to believe that its 19 years later and everything is now...broken in! LOL!

That winter we finished off the upstairs doing all the work ourselves. The next year we undertook the much bigger project of adding on our garage. I've noticed that many people say that they built their house, when in fact they mean that they acted as a contractor who hired workers to build their house. Well, WE built our garage! I must tell you that Tom was the brains behind the operation. I ended up learning a lot but started out with absolutely no knowledge. Tom is enough of a handyman to know most of what he needed and to figure out the rest.

It ended up being more than just a garage because its the exact same dimensions as our house. This made it easy to figure out the size that the joists, rafters, etc needed to be. It also included the "mudroom" that attaches it to the main house. Since this is an enclosed room it is not called a breeze way but we learned its called a hyphen. We made our decision to make it so big based on the fact that we would never say "wow, its too big', but would possibly regret if we made it too small.

Our project started with calling excavators in the late winter to have someone come in the spring and dig the hole for the footing. Yeah, I know what you're thinking, I said that we did the work ourselves. Well, let me continue. Unfortunately the excavators told us that the earliest that they could dig would be the fall of that year. That was, IF we were lucky! So we started to look for a place to rent a small backhoe. We soon discovered that our isolated country life meant that there wasn't any rental companies close enough (since then, a few have popped up around here). So our first purchase was a couple of spades, yes, shovels. We borrowed a pick. It seemed to many, an absurd idea to dig this huge hole ourselves. I'm not sure if it was optimism or ignorance that led us to take that plunge. One thing for sure we were definitely ignorant about how many rocks are here in Pennsylvania, not to mention the clay! I'm just appreciative of the fact that we didn't encounter any huge boulders. We had a few helpful friends and relatives that would stop by to help...once or twice. I have to mention Tom's cousin who was a powerhouse digger, if we could just keep him going in the right direction!

Well, that heck hole took us over two months to dig but we were ready to pour the footings. We had a cement mixer but decided to have a company come with ready made concrete. We had called the building inspector to have him come inspect the forms while we were at work and assumed he hadn't found any problems. We poured the footings only to find out he had never made that inspection! He said "You've got to take out the footings!" I guess since I'm from the country where they would think that was a funny joke and Tom is not from the country, we both took it differently. Fortunately, my laughter broke the ice and diffused Tom's panic quickly enough that he didn't have a heart attack and throw us completely off schedule! It was only a joke but we were more careful about future inspections.

I think working side by side with Tom made our marriage even stronger. I've seen people try to work together carrying heavy objects pushing and pulling and working against each other. Tom and I have carried so much that its like one person moving the object. Many of the jobs were repetive like cutting and placing the roof shingles. I would cut them and he would nail them down. It got so I would know exactly what size he needed before he even asked. My cooking skills came in handy since I mixed all the mortar to use on the foundation. There's nothing like the strength building exercise of carrying hundreds of 40 pound concrete blocks and handing them to Tom to mortar into the foundation wall. I became very strong but still managed to be pleasing plump! My fear of heights is greatly diminished since I spent so much time going up and down the ladder. Tom did such a good job on the electrical wiring that the electrical inspector commented on how great it was. It passed before we discovered it had a couple of mistakes! Well, all these years later the house hasn't burned down so I guess everything is okay! Tom designed and built the round barn type doors that you see in the picture and did such a good job that they've held up perfectly.

We began to call the inspector "our buddy Dewayne". He was known to be tough but we were always meticulous about our work so we never had a problem with him. He even stood up for us at the Board of Supervisors meeting when we were begging to get our third yearly building permit. Yes, the project took us three years. We had nights that we would get home from work at 5:00 pm and work until it was dark. In the summer that could be until 8:30 or 9:00 pm! Originally I was going to type that the ENTIRE project took us three years to complete but that is not quite true. We got our Certificate of Occupancy after three years but only needed to have one coat of spackle on the walls to get it. And that is the way it remained for around 15 years. That is when we finally finished to the two rooms over the garage for the kids to move into. The mudroom is still in process and the garage may always have spackled walls! We have grown to see that the process of creating our home is much more fun than having everything done right away.

There is always something new happening. A couple years ago Tom finished the porch on the front of the house. I've wanted a porch forever and the wait was worth it! I love the look of hanging flowers in the summer and wreaths and garland in the winter. The latest is turning our mudroom into "The Pennsylvania Room". For me this constant metamorphosis is necessary. I feel that if it stops, we will be at the end of life. To me change is life.

Monday, December 26, 2005

SEWING

Before Christmas I decided to make my family flannel pajamas. They don't seem to sell real flannel pajamas anymore because they so easily go up in flames. I decided to live life on the edge because the snuggly feeling is so worth it! Erin loves when I tuck her in at night because she says I am covering her up with love when I put her blankets on her. Sarah quickly picked up on this. So I told them how much love went into their pajamas and now they can walk around the house covered in love! Yeah, I know its hokey, but it makes all of us happy! I've wanted to post about this sewing project but couldn't because they were a surprise. I let them open their pajamas on Christmas Eve so they could wear them to bed and they would be wearing them in all the Christmas Day videos. More hokeyness as my husband and son wander around in matching plaid and the girls in matching pink and purple frilliness! I was able to achieve supreme happiness when they were just as thrilled about them as I was! Sickening isn't it! LOL!!

I was so excited about them that I couldn't help mentioning them to random people I came acrossed in everyday life. Then I realized that it sounded like I was trying to be crowned "Mother of the Year" and had to stop myself. As I was spending those countless hours sewing away, I felt how nice it was to be in a new phase with my kids where I actually have time and energy enough to work at something I enjoy. I love that feeling of creating something and seeing it take shape. I felt tired and worn down most of the time when they were really little and just decided to stop doing most of those projects and activities that I wanted to do. I know people always say "take time for yourself" but its one of those things that is easier said than done. Especially when I didn't have any family support, no one who would babysit or help out when the kids were sick. I always found asking a friend to watch the kids would backfire because payback always seemed twice as hard as what I would get out of the deal. So I muddled through and now I am at the end of that tunnel seeing the light of day. Its nice. I even think I have time and energy to make myself a pair of pajama pants with the extra cloth!