Tuesday, February 28, 2006

A SLIPPERY SLOPE

Everyone wants to be loved. A lot of a person's life is spent trying to do things so others will like and love them. We do favors for our friends. We volunteer in the community. We put on a cheerful face and say hello to strangers. Then in return we expect them to show appreciation. We expect them to think that we are good people. We expect them to like us and say good things about us. What happens when others don't appreciate the wonderful things we are doing? What happens when they reject us? That slippery slope. When we put our happiness in the hands of others, we are more often than not, disappointed.

I think the perfect relationship is one where a person already loves you, then you do nice things for them because you love them. Its perfect because when you wake up grumpy, you don't have to work at making them love you. They just do. They see your grumpy mood and may even try to do something special to make you feel better. The next day you can wake up and go back to being nice without worrying that you've lost their love. In the ideal world this kind of love is waiting at the bottom of that slippery slope.

I'm happy down at the bottom, I gave up trying to go up. I got too many bruises.

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